Stands for Free Application for Federal Student Aid. I have another set of words that really apply, but think that Blogger would so have a problem with them. Have you ever filled one of these bad boys out? There are 100 + questions on there. Most of them deal with if my child is homeless, abandoned, is she in the service, in foster care, emancipated, etc. They asked how much we made and how much we put in our 401(k) accounts, how much our net worth was not counting our primary home. Well, let's see. We have a savings account that hmmm, will pay our property taxes in May. We have several cars that are all paid for, but didn't ask about that. Asked if we have stocks. Yes, but the hubs got them when he took a pay cut many years ago with Northwest and then got screwed over and eventually lost his job. The stock price I think is $5.29 per share and we have about 120 shares. The amount changes daily. Does it ask how much our house payment is? How much our insurance and taxes are? How much our health insurance costs? How much we spend on gas and groceries. How much it costs to clothe our kids, keep lights burning and heat the house? Does it ask if we are still trying to recover from losing our jobs and completely using up our life savings to live until we found jobs? No. How much we made, how much we saved and how much in stocks and investments. And then, after printing off all of the forms, passwords, etcetera, it has the gall to tell me that our "Expected Family Contribution" is $20659 freaking dollars!! Is the government smoking crack? That is 2/3 of what I make a year!! Honestly, the only way she would get help is if, and I'm quoting a friend who recently went through this for herself, is if we lived in cardboard box down by the river!
We have always told the girls that of course we want them to go to college of some kind because even though we ended up with decent jobs with not a lot of formal training, that won't cut it for them in today's world and economy. We also said that it was up to them to pay for it as it will be for their benefit. We can't possibly afford $30,000 for Hermit Crab's annual tuition. She knew this going in and this is the college that will make all her dreams come true. We couldn't even afford to pay if she went to the U of M. All we read and hear on the news is that our students can't compete with children of other nations. Our test scores are lower, our standards lower. What are they doing different? Probably the better funding of education than we have here. We want to be the smartest, most trained people in the world but education always takes a hit in budget cuts. We can't keep teachers in our small district because we can't afford to pay them enough to live on. I'm ranting I know. But I don't know what we are going to do as it is much harder to even get student loans. We can't put another mortgage on the house. I told Ally today that she needs to start selling organs and platelets to help out. She is deathly afraid of needles and said no, so in some small comforting way I know she won't be tattooing herself up in Wisconsin while studying pollution, energy and biology. In a perfect world, I could get her a world class education for the $1.98 in my wallet.
Then Drama Queen comes in after I have a meltdown reading the FAFSA and tells me she has to be at school tonight for a concert. WTF? How could you have possibly forgotten you had a concert? Haven't you been practicing A LOT in choir for this? I hadn't slept all day so I run in and lay down for 2 hours so I can drive a car without falling asleep or running over small trees that jump out in front of me!
Here she is at the concert with two of her good friends:
Booger is in the middle with the braces. Yes, Booger is what we call her at home and no it has nothing to do with the amount of snot she possesses. Just what we called her from birth.
To drown my sorrows, I came home and turned on the TV and found the Bachelor. Really? The past has shown us this hasn't worked but for one couple. And then there was the added drama after the proposal with the 'to respect the paries involved in this never before turn of events'. I'm thinking to myself "he picked the wrong one" and I haven't seen an episode since the Navy surgeon one. It seemed a bit rehearsed. Maybe I'm so jaded I can't be unbiased?
The food that was planned for tonight was put on hold due to FAFSA and the impromptu concert, so the dishes will show up tomorrow and later.
A big thank you for all the suggestions on what dessert to make for our weekend dinner with our friends. If I had time, I would do what Cathy over at Noble Pig suggested and make a sampler platter of all the ideas you gave me! I think I will definitely make them all at some time as I have to make desserts for the upcoming grad party. Maybe if I charge a cover charge to get in, we could cover her books for the first semester..............hmmm......